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Step 10. The Rest of Your Life | |||||||||||
Having a wonderful marriage | |||||||||||
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This is the hard part | |||||||||||
I don't mean to scare you, but compared to having a successful, long-term marriage, the actual act of getting married is a piece of cake. I know you think planning that wedding was hard, but what it did was distract you from all the realities of day-to-day life that you have to face now. But buck up man, you're in love and that's what matters. | |||||||||||
Marriage is hard work | |||||||||||
Don't let anybody tell you differently, marriage is a lot of work. Anybody who tells you it isn't probably isn't married, is on their third marriage already, or has a partner who is cheating on them. No matter how much you love somebody, there are going to be problems that crop up, and times where all you really want to do is push your wife into traffic. So do the groundwork now, before it becomes overwhelming. | |||||||||||
Talk to each other | |||||||||||
Talk about everything. Your day, Jennifer Aniston's hair, how great she (your wife) looks in those jeans, you name it. You talk long enough, you just might learn something about your wife (like what she wants for her birthday, score!), or you might stumble onto some important subjects (like if/when you are going to have kids). Communication is essential, but it doesn't happen by magic. The good news is that as your wife she has to listen to your crazy rambling stories and inane anecdotes, so you never have a great story with nobody to tell it to. Scary thing is that since she loves you, she probably even wants to hear all about it. | |||||||||||
Don't take her for granted | |||||||||||
Pretend you are still dating (go back and read that section if you have to), and that you still have to work at winning her affection. Don't sit on your ass all day and get fat just because she already agreed to marry you. Don't do the same thing every friday night just because it's easy and you don't have to think. All this is going to do is lead to boredom and disinterest, which is going to lead to one of you walking out the door one day and hopping into the sack with the neighbour. In a way everything you do is preventative medecine for things that might happen in the future. Build up a strong enough foundation of a relationship that it can survive anything that comes your way down the road | |||||||||||
Enjoy your marriage | |||||||||||
You're married. That's cool, and you should enjoy it. If you aren't enjoying it, well there's really no reason to be married now is there? | |||||||||||
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